Stories like this make me sick to my stomach. From Yahoo News:
When Bangladeshi teenager Hena Akhter was raped by her cousin, their village council issued a fatwa ordering a public whipping as punishment — 101 lashes for her, 201 for him.
Hena collapsed after 70 lashes and died six days later at home in the remote Chamta village in Shariatpur district […]
The girl was only 14 years-old. The rest of the articles provides details about the whipping itself, and the legal system in Bangladesh- one in which fatwas imposing such harsh physical punishments are theoretically illegal, but still common in a heavily religious society.
I personally have two adopted female cousins that were born in Bangladesh, and it haunts me to think that this could have happened to either one of them had they remained in the country. These women suffering in Bangladesh are just as human as our friends and family. They are somebody’s wife, mother, sister, daughter. As privileged as most of us are here, on the “blogosphere”, it’s important to remember not only the plight of women in more wealthy industrial nations- but also the horrendous conditions that women suffer daily in some of the more impoverished areas of the globe. Their issues are our issues, and we need to fight for these women abroad just as we fight for our own rights in our own nations.
This type of violence in Bangladesh should also reveal the true ugly face behind the more casual victim-blaming and slut-shaming that some of us may be more familiar with on a daily basis. The root of it is the same- but this disgusting extreme should help awaken us to remember that it is never the victim’s fault, and that all such rhetoric comes from a place of misogyny and violence against women, and should NOT be tolerated.
“My old lipcolor could barely keep up with my busy schedule. In the time that it took me to notice the wide discrepancy between my salary and that of my male peers, I’d have to reapply. In the seconds to count the number of women in high political offices, seated on corporate boards, or featured in film & television over the age of forty, my lipcolor would become as invisible as this glass ceiling just inches above my head. L’Oreal: because I’m worth it. And because holding myself to an impossible standard of beauty keeps me from starting a riot.”—Maria Bamford, “How to WIN!” (via ammrva)
I'm going to go home and eat off-brand macaroni and cheese for breakfast and I don't care what anyone thinks about it.
In reality I would prefer some bangin’ Aunt-Sarah’s-esque type of breakfast but hey I’m too broke to go out to eat or even grocery shop for that matter. I am salivating over a box of macaroni and cheese that I have had for 2 years now. LITERALLY, 2 YEARS. MAYBE MORE. Stop judging me.
To create a more “attractive presentation,” the Badminton World Federation has decreed that women must wear skirts or dresses to play at the elite level, beginning Wednesday. Many now compete in shorts or tracksuit pants. The dress code would make female players appear more feminine and appealing to fans and corporate sponsors, officials said.
“Tell you what? You can have all that stuff back AND we’ll throw in White Entertainment Television and stop shooting you.
In return we’ll take the 90% of the seats in Congress, $95,000 more wealth than the average White family, a 75% home ownership rate to your 48%, lower interest rates, 83% of the board seats in Fortune 500 companies, better healthcare, a 4 year longer life expectancy than you and dominance of the other 5000 television channels.
We’ll also need about one out of every eight White men to report immediately to prison. Feel free to rock, paper, scissors that shit amongst yourselves.
Nice doing business with you.”—
When we embrace our curvy bodies, we’re told we’re fat. When we accept our thin frames, we’re accused of lazy or bad cooks. We’ve been charged with nursing and caring for the children of our white employers from Antebellum times through today, but we’re constantly being portrayed as bad mothers. We put a weave in our hair trying conform to a beauty standard that has nothing to do with us and we’re still called “nappy-headed hoes”. When we go to school, get degrees and a career, we’re “un-marry-able”. If we work and have kids early instead of going to school, same thing happens. When we or others decide to celebrate us, white women scream out “REVERSE RACISM” but we have to comb through 50-11 magazines with white women on every page to find ONE with a Black woman on the cover. We bare it all in a video or keep condoms in our nightstands and we’re called sluts. We dedicate ourselves to The Church or are decidedly single and we’re prudes or “bitter”. All too often, we are forced to choose our race over our gender or risk feeling the wrath of our Brothers, despite having to live with the realities of both. From Saartjie Baartman aka “Venus Hottentot” to Satoshi Kanazawa’s “scientific” study claiming Black women being less physically attractive than EVERYBODY else, we’ve been studied like freaks of nature instead of just regarded as human beings with the same value as all others.
“Girls get a lot of mixed messages—they are told, ‘Girl Power!’ and what does that mean? It means you wear a T-shirt that says, ‘Girl Power!’ but you call each other bitches. You make fun of a girl for being a virgin and you make fun of a girl for having sex. There’s no right place to be.”—Tina Fey (via sexisnottheenemy)
“I’m tired of hearing America is the best at this or the best at that all the frickin’ time. It’s a fat country with bad health care, bad politics, bad education, bad infrastructure, bad religion, a horrific income gap, a load of violent crime, moronic drug laws, rampant racism, people who deny the rampant racism, sexism, people who deny the rampant sexism, an active and overt hostility to higher education, and a population that consists of large blocs devoted to ideology over real-world pragmatic answers. And to top things off, it’s filled with the sort of people who give idiotic responses to all these facts by saying, “Well, if you don’t like, why don’t you leave?” Morons.”—For the Sake of Science (via azspot)
“‘Level of professionalism’? What professionalism? You mean the professionalism where she got famous by singing a song that sexualises queer women by portraying them as only dating other women for the pleasure of straight men? The professionalism where she followed that up with a single that encourages sissyphobia and stereotyping of gay men? Or the professionalism where she found a photo of a naked trans man and mocked him on her twitter?”—
“The “fat girls give better head” stereotype is of course fatphobic but is also inherently slut-shaming because it’s representing being proficient at a sex act as something negative. And in a lot of people’s minds, being good at sex means you’ve had more, which equals slut/whore for women. It’s tied in to the stereotype of fat girls as “easy” (aka slutty) because they have low self-esteem, and not because they simply love sex. When you’re a fat girl you’re not allowed to have a lot of sex unless you’re desperately searching for attention. The sex-loving, confident fat girl is in this case invisible. Our sexuality is always complicated by the difference between our view of our own sexuality and society’s view of what fat sexuality should look like. Meaning, it should be either kept completely behind closed doors or fit within the framework of self-loathing and body hate that all fat women are expected to experience on a daily basis. This is why cultivating a sex-positive culture is necessarily important to fat/body acceptance, and why we have to make fat visible in sex-positive movements and spaces.”—Tasha Fierce, Sex and the Fat Girl (via megaera)
“Money is a human creation. It is nothing but a number. Most of it is simply accounting entries in computer files. It has no existence, reality, or value outside the human mind. It is extraordinary that we, a supposedly intelligent species that prides itself on creating a great civilization based on popular democratic self-rule, allow money, a system of accounting entries, to rule our lives. Has it ever struck you how absurd it is that as a society we have so much work that needs doing and at the same time, so many unemployed people who would love to be doing productive work? How absurd, that two of our defining problems are homeless people and vacant houses? We are told there is no money to put the unemployed people to work meeting unmet needs and to put the homeless into the empty houses. What a powerful demonstration of system failure.”—David Korten (via azspot)
“Most of us, in our daily lives, do not think about rape at all. Women, however, do. When I ask women what they do in their daily lives because of the threat of sexual violence, they offer a long list of actions and thought processes – everything from paying attention to where they park their cars to having a man’s voice on their answering machine to holding their keys as a weapon when walking across a parking lot. Every action of women within a rape culture is tainted by that culture. Going to get their mail, driving to work, going out with friends – none of these actions is “free.” One way of thinking about this is to realize that regardless of the statistics about how many women experience a rape or attempted rape within their lifetime, 100% of women experience the threat of rape within a rape culture. This means that all women’s lives are impacted.”—(via hollow-gram)
“Ever notice how the women in Cosmopolitan magazine so often look like they’re a hair’s breath from an orgasm? This goes for the ads as well as the editorials. Have you ever wondered: hmm, isn’t it sort of weird that a women’s magazine that is itself sold to women and is simultaneously trying to sell things to women should be filled with other women staring out of the pages making the kinds of dull-witted sexyfaces you’d expect them to be making at men whose attentions they were seeking? Why are women being instructed to look at women who are ostensibly looking at invisible men? The magazine is showing you women via the male gaze. The magazine is also training you to see yourself via the male gaze, and to put more currency in how you look to the outside observer, or how you look in a mirror, as opposed to how you look at the world, as a person seeing. The message is that women don’t see; they are only seen. You want a man? You wear these clothes, stand in this posture, make this sexyface: these are the symbols of the straight female. In a heteronormative, male-driven world, this what it means to be beautiful, or at least sexually available.”—
“Life insurance is something that you pay a premium for and, if you have an accident, your family receives money to recoup costs. An abortion rider would be something you pay for in order to, if you have an unwanted or nonviable pregnancy, terminate the pregnancy without it costing even more than if you didn’t have the coverage in the first place.
Now, taking just a moment to look at the overall picture of what is being discussed, it needs to be said clearly.
A Republican just suggested a woman should have to “plan ahead” and obtain insurance in case she is raped. She should have a plan ready in case she is raped. I cannot repeat that enough - a Republican lawmaker believes that women should be planning for a future in which she is raped, just in case.
“Curvy women are real women. Skinny women are real women. Women who have had boob jobs or lip enhancements or liposuction are still real women. Size 0 may make no sense mathematically, but a woman who wears that size is as real as the one who wears a size 16. What makes us “real” people is not the shape of our flesh but our basic humanity. And we lose our humanity when we judge – not when we lose weight, gain weight, or make the intensely personal decision to undergo cosmetic surgery.”—Hugo Schwyzer (via killinhoes)
“My schooling gave me no training in seeing myself as an oppressor, as an unfairly advantaged person, or as a participant in a damaged culture. I was taught to see myself as an individual whose moral state depended on her individual moral will. My schooling followed the pattern my colleague, Elizabeth Minnich has pointed out: whites are taught to think of their lives as morally neutral, normative, and average, and also ideal, so that when we work to benefit others, this is seen as work that will allow them to be more like us.”—
Peggy McIntosh, White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack (via cloveflowers)